It’s Okay

There are moments in life when everything seems out of focus, when nothing appears to be working as it should. It might be a turbulent relationship, the loss of a loved one, or the realization that our chosen path isn't as promising as we once thought. At times like these, we may find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of negative thoughts, self-doubt, and uncertainty, with seemingly no clear solution in sight. Life, by its very nature, is unpredictable, full of unexpected challenges and changes.

In times of complexity and confusion, it's helpful to try certain approaches to gain some clarity. Given the common struggles people face during crises, it’s worth revisiting this topic periodically. The exercises outlined below aren’t quick fixes; rather, they serve as tools to help navigate difficult situations. Seeking professional assistance is strongly advised for anyone grappling with life’s myriad challenges.

Stepping Out Exercise: When Life Becomes Overwhelming

Find a quiet, uninterrupted space where you can be alone. Step away from your situation and visualize yourself from a third-person perspective, as if watching a movie on a giant screen. Take note of your feelings and surroundings for about 30 seconds (approximately 20 breaths). Then, shrink the image down to the size of a large television screen. After another 30 seconds, further shrink the image to the size of a small laptop screen. Notice how the intensity diminishes. Finally, turn off the image and simply relax, focusing on your breath.

Take a Long Walk: Confronting Your Struggles

Write down the specific issue you're grappling with on a piece of paper—acknowledging the battle you're facing is the first step in overcoming it. Then, fold the paper and embark on a long walk. Allow yourself to engage with the issue as you walk, letting the physical activity and change of scenery bring a fresh perspective.

It’s Okay Exercise: Embracing Your Emotions

In moments of doubt and uncertainty, it’s crucial to remember that experiencing negative emotions is perfectly normal and human. Through adversity, we can cultivate strength and resilience. Write your own “It’s Okay” statement, acknowledging your current feelings and concluding with your own affirmation of growth and strength. Here are some examples:

• It’s okay to feel afraid. Through fear comes courage and growth.

• It’s okay to feel lost. I will find a better path in life.

• It’s okay not to feel happy all the time.

• It’s okay to worry.

• It’s okay to be vulnerable.

• It’s okay to ask for help.

• It’s okay to seek solitude.

• It’s okay to articulate your needs and desires.

• It’s okay to mourn what’s lost without dwelling on what could have been.

Complete the statement: “It’s okay _______”, and keep writing. Embrace discomfort as a catalyst for empowerment.

So, the next time life feels out of focus, take a step back, write down your concerns, take a long walk, and remind yourself that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Through hardship comes healing.

Eugene Roginsky, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist who provides therapy to individuals, couples, and families in Lincolnshire, Illinois. He is also a keynote speaker, clinical and wellness educator, and peak performance coach. For more information or to schedule a complimentary consultation, please contact Bridge2Horizon Psychotherapy and Counseling Services. Visit: www.Bridge2Horizon.com.